Category: Growing Older

‘Dilexit Nos’ by Pope Francis

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A summary and reflection by Rev. Dr. Joe Cortis

‘Dilexit Nos’ (He Loved us) is Pope Francis’ fourth and last Encyclical issued on the 24th. October 2024. It traces the tradition and relevance of thinking ‘on the human and divine love of the heart of Jesus Christ’, inviting us to renew authentic devotion as not to forget the tenderness of the faith, the joy of putting ourselves at the service and the fervour of the mission.

Opened with a brief introduction and divided into five chapters, the encyclical on devotion to the Sacred Heart of Jesus brings together the precious reflections of previous magisterial texts and a long history that goes back to the Sacred Scriptures, to re-propose today, to the whole Church, this devotion which is full of spiritual beauty.

Here are some of the most significant parts of the Encyclical:

  1. Mere appearances, dishonesty and deception harm and pervert the heart. Despite our every attempt to appear as something we are not, our heart is the ultimate judge, not of what we show or hide from others, but of who we truly are. It is the basis for any sound life projects; nothing worthwhile can be undertaken apart from the heart. False appearances and untruths ultimately leave us empty-handed.  
  2. If we devalue the heart, we also devalue what it means to speak from the heart, to act with the heart, to cultivate and heal the heart. If we fail to appreciate the specificity of the heart, we miss the messages that the mind alone cannot communicate; we miss out on the richness of our encounters with others; we miss out on poetry. We also loose track of history and our own past, since our real personal history is built with the heart. At the end of our lives, only this will count.
  3. The heart of Christ is ‘ecstasy’, openness, gift and encounter. In that heart we learn to relate to one another in wholeness and happy ways, and to build up in this world  God’s Kingdom of love and justice. Our hearts, united with the heart of Christ, are capable of working this social miracle.
  4. Before the heart of Jesus, living and present, our mind enlightened by the Spirit, grows in the understanding of his words and our will is moved to put them intro practice. May he pour out the treasures of his light and love, so that our world, which presses forward despite wars, socio-economic disparities and uses of technology that threaten our humanity, may regain the most important and necessary thing of all: its heart.
  5. If we find it hard to trust others because we have been hurt by lies, injuries and disappointments, the Lord whispers in our ear: ‘Take Heart son’ (Mt 9:22). ‘Take heart daughter’  (Mt 9:22). He encourages us to overcome our fear and to realize that, with him at our side, we have nothing to loose.
  6. Whenever we feel that everyone ignores us, that no one cares what becomes of us, that we are of no importance to anyone, he remains concerned for us.
  7. I also encourage everyone to consider whether there might be greater reasonableness, truth and wisdom in certain demonstrations of love that seek to console the Lord than in the cold, distant, calculated and nominal acts of love that are at times practised by those who claim to possess a more reflective sophisticated and mature faith.
  8. Christ asks you never to be ashamed to others, with all due discretion and respect about your friendship with him. He asks that you dare to tell others how good and beautiful it is that you found him.
  9. In a world where everything is bought and sold, people’s sense of their own worth appears increasingly to depend on what they can accumulate with the power of money. We are constantly being pushed to keep buying, consuming and distracting ourselves, held captive to a demeaning system that prevents us from looking beyond our immediate and petty needs. The love of Christ has no place in this perverse mechanism, yet only that love can set us free from a mad pursuit that no longer has room for a gratuitous love. Christ’s love can give a heart to our world and revive love wherever we think that the ability to love has been definitively lost.
  10. The wounded side of Christ continues to pour forth that stream, which is never exhausted, never passes away, but offers itself time and time again to all those who wish to love as he did. For his love alone can bring about a new humanity.

Rev. Dr. Joseph D Cortis

Living in Hope – online reflection

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The second of the Doorways of Hope series of 3 online reflections is Living in Hope, on Wednesday 14th March, 7:00pm to 8:00pm.

Paula Shanks and Monseigneur Donal Lucey will explore how living in the flow of life offers invitations to a deeper sense of hope. 

This is part of the invitation to be ‘Pilgrims of Hope’, looking at ways of noticing the nature and presence of hope, what it means to live this hope and how we can share hope with others in our ordinary, daily lives. 

Please do join us for Living in Hope on Tuesday 18th March, just email growing.old.gracefully@dioceseofleeds.org.uk.

Eastertide Reflection: Hope by Pippa Bonner

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This is Pope Francis’ Jubilee Year of Hope. We are encouraged to be Pilgrims of Hope amidst the traumatic global events of war, climate change, political swings and poverty and injustice that currently confront us. 

Currently we are all concerned about the war in Ukraine, in the Middle East and elsewhere. We do not know the eventual outcome, but I believe we must have hope and pray.

Hope, we know, is more than optimism and being positive, important as those states of mind are, and easier for some than others.  Hope comes from deep faith that ultimately “All will be well”, as Julian of Norwich believed and shared from her mystical experiences. 

Recently I was with a 90 year old woman who was deeply asleep. She awoke and immediately said with a smile, “All will be well.”  She is bed bound and, to the onlooker, now apparently leads a very restricted, limited life. What an amazing proclamation to have made when she awoke! I experienced this as an example of mature, graced hope and a great reminder to me and others. We must never underestimate older people..!

Easter is the pinnacle of hope for Christians, who believe that Jesus was resurrected from death following his crucifixion.

We are redeemed and part of God’s eternal plan. After the terrible pain and anguish of Holy Week, Christ, has risen from the dead and is full of transformed life. He appears a number of times to his followers before Pentecost fifty days later when they receive the Holy Spirit and are given the gifts and strength to carry on Jesus’ work of spreading the Word and transforming peoples’ lives. We are encouraged in 2025 to carry on His work, using our Spirit-given gifts and experience to live and share the Word, with each other, now and every day. This can be in small, quiet ways as well as more publicly. We can pray for each other.

When I was asked to write a Reflection for Easter and Pentecost time it was January. This time frame is not unusual. I immediately agreed to write it. Usually I write something quite quickly.  But not this time. Why? 

I have realised now the delay was to do with me and life events. I was going through a challenging time. I was recovering from planned surgery that I had waited for a long time and also coping with a recent house move. I knew these were the reasons for my writing something: but also why I had to sit with the changes in my life and ‘the now’ of January before thinking ahead to the opening up and hope of the Easter Message.

This was the reason for my delay…the liturgical journey after Jesus’ birth in Christmastide is to travel with him through his daily life of teachings, signs and miracles, and then Lent, through his wilderness experience, his experience of rejection, suffering and crucifixion towards Resurrection. Although I make this liturgical journey every year, this time it has been different.

I have had to learn to walk again. I have felt pain and had the temporary experience of not driving, and needing to rely more on others’ help and kindness.  I have had to let go of the family home with three sets of stairs and the stress of selling it These are experiences shared by many older people. I have had the support of family and friends and my situation is temporary, but it has not been easy. However, I also constantly feel grateful I do not live in the rubble of Gaza or Mariupol, or as a refugee on a long journey from war, drought or persecution.

I realise that the Pope’s Jubilee Year of Hope is here at the right time for me – and I suggest for all of us – as it emphasises the importance of hope and kindness. Pope Francis talked on a Radio 4 Today Programme, Thought for the Day, at the beginning of the Jubilee Year of Hope in December 2024.  Several times he emphasised the importance of hope with kindness. He said  “I hope that during this Jubilee we can practise kindness as a form of love to connect with others.” I think in our daily lives, trying to live as Pilgrims of Hope kindness can be part of the Jubilee “glue” in our family, parish and community that particularly older people can offer. It can be contagious and can “stick”!

Life is full of hope and challenge, ups and downs. Over the years my morning prayer has morphed into offering everything that happens during daily life that is good and bad, the hopeless and hopeful:

“Today I offer You the good and the bad, the happy and the sad, the boring and the mad”. 

It encompasses everything. It seems to me that God makes use of our negative experiences and challenges as well as the positives and blessings we are given.

There is hope…May we all at Eastertide work together with hope and kindness and offer our Gifts to each other at Pentecost as we try to be Pilgrims of Hope and Kindness.

Pippa Bonner

Easter 2025

Video and summary sheet of Glimpses of Hope online reflection

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On Tuesday 18th March 2025, we held the first in the Doorways of Hope series of online reflections led by Paula Shanks and Mgr. Donal Lucey & Paula Shanks, as part of the Pilgrims of Hope Jubilee year.

The reflection explores the theme of ‘Springtime’ to explore how we can awaken to the invitation to be renewed in hope, a hope rooted in God who chooses to be with us in how things are, where we are.

You can watch the whole session on YouTube here.

There is a one page summary produced by Paula here.

Christians on Ageing – AGM and Spring Conference

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Christians on Ageing are hosting their annual general meeting and spring conference at the Bar Convent in York on 30th of April 2025. Christians on Ageing is a Christian voice for older people and works for a society in which older people are heard, supported and valued..

The day will be focusing on celebrating the gifts and potential of later life and helping churches and others to develop activities which contribute to facilitating other peoples spiritual growth.

The keynote speaker will be Reverend Dr. Chris Swift, recently appointed as Director of the Leeds Church Institute and previously Director of Chaplaincy and Spirituality at Methodist Homes.

It is a free event open to anyone interested in later life and older people ministry.

To book a place please use this link: 

https://buytickets.at/christiancouncilonageing/1532201

Glimpses of Hope – online event

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The first of the Doorways of Hope series of online events is is Glimpses of Hope, on Tuesday 18th March, 2:30pm to 3:30pm,

Paula Shanks and Monseigneur Donal Lucey &will explore the the theme of ‘Springtime’ to explore how we can awaken to the invitation to be renewed in hope. A hope rooted in God who chooses to be with us in how things are, where we are.  

Over the course of the three hour long talks and reflections, Paula and Mgr. Lucey will explore the invitation to be ‘Pilgrims of Hope’ and will offer ways of noticing the nature and presence of hope, what it means to live this hope and how we can share hope with others in our ordinary, daily lives. 

Please do join us for Glimpses of Hope on Tuesday 18th March, just email growing.old.gracefully@dioceseofleeds.org.uk.

Dementia Friends – free online training sessions

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Growing Old Grace-fully, together with Age Friendly Leeds, are hosting two online sessions to support people to become Dementia Friends.

This online training is aimed at all those who want to make their communities and parishes more dementia friendly, for the families and friends of people living with dementia and anyone with caring duties. It also works for anyone who simply wants to understand dementia and learn better how to support and communicate with people living with it.

The two stand alone sessions are as follows:

  • Monday 10th March 2:30 – 3:30 pm 
  • Tuesday 29th April, 7:00 – 8:00pm. 

The two sessions are the same. Each one is open to all, but places are limited so please book one of the slots by emailing growing.old.gracefully@dioceseofleeds.org.uk

Become a Dementia Friend

Dementia Friends is an Alzheimer’s Society initiative, see www.dementiafriends.org.uk.

It helps by raising awareness and understanding, so that people living with dementia can continue to live in the way they want. Too many people affected by dementia feel that society fails to understand the condition they live with.

A Dementia Friend is somebody that learns about dementia so they can help their community, workplace or family be more dementia friendly. 

You can become a Dementia Friend by attending either of the two training sessions, do book today.

Online Resources

We have many online resources to support parishes be dementia friendly and these are found here:

www.growingoldgracefully.org.uk/dementia

In October we held an online session Spiritually Accompanying People with Dementia led by Rev. Dr. Joseph Cortis, co-author of Journeying Together: accompanying people living with dementia. The video and a summary of the session is available online here:

www.growingoldgracefully.org.uk/video-and-resources-from-spiritually-accompanying-people-with-dementia-online-session

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Video from Finding Hope in Community and Parish Life

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Growing Old Grace-fully has been hosting a series of six online events in 2024, on a variety of different themes exploring later life. The sixth and final of these events was Finding Hope in Community and Parish Life, which was on Tuesday 19th November 2024.

The session had three presentations from people who have found hope in parish life or a Christian community group – Susan Clarkson, Maureen Crossley and Carol Burns – and prayers and reflections.

The video of this session is available to watch on YouTube here.

Video and resources from ‘Spiritually Accompanying People with Dementia’ online session

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On Tuesday 22nd October, we held the 5th Growing Old Grace-fully online session of 2024, Spiritually Accompanying People with Dementia led by Rev. Dr. Joseph Cortis, co-author of Journeying Together: accompanying people living with dementia. Deacon Joe has a background in adult and mental health nursing which includes a long period as an educational manager, academic and senior lecturer at the University of Leeds. He is a Trustee of Growing Old Grace-fully and a Deacon of the Diocese of Leeds.

The session explored ways to provide spiritual support to individuals living with dementia as well as our own spiritual journey with them as a loved one. It includes prayers and reflections, as well as ideas as to accompany and support someone living with dementia from a spiritual perspective.

It was a very powerful session and we thank Deacon Joe for leading it.

You can watch the whole session on YouTube here.

There is a one page summary of the session, produced by Deacon Joe, that you can download here.

Further Resources

For those who would like to read it, the book, by Rev. Dr. Joe Cortis & Dr. Pia Matthews can be ordered here.

In addition, in 2019 Deacon Joe led a Dementia Awareness workshop, which can be found on the Caritas Leeds website here.

This page also links to several useful resources and links, regarding dementia.

Online event – Spiritually Accompanying People Living With Dementia

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Growing Old Grace-fully‘s 5th online event of 2024 is Spiritually Accompanying People Living With Dementia on Tuesday 22nd October, 7:00-8:00pm.  This is part of the series of online events How to be more Later Life Friendly in our parishes.

The Zoom event, looking at the theological significance of dementia, is led by Rev. Dr. Joseph Cortis, co-author of Journeying Together: accompanying people living with dementia. Deacon Joe has a background in adult and mental health nursing which includes a long period as an educational manager, academic and senior lecturer at the University of Leeds. He is a Trustee of Growing Old Grace-fully.

Whether you are a spouse, family member, friend or caregiver, this event is designed to explore ways to provide spiritual support to individuals living with dementia as well as our own spiritual journey with them as a loved one.

The session will include prayers and reflections, as well as ideas as to accompany and support someone living with dementia from a spiritual perspective.

To attend, reserve a free ticket on Eventbrite here.  

A Zoom link will be circulated to all ticket holders in advance of the event.

For those who would like to read it, the book, by Rev. Dr. Joe Cortis & Dr. Pia Matthews can be ordered here.