An interesting reflection.

Taken from ‘Fountain of Age’ by Betty Frieden, Simon & Schuster 1993.

This generation has a unique role in combating the “age as decline” model, which is still prevalent in Western society.  We are living longer with health and assets, and the benefits of technology – at the turn of the 20th century average life expectancy was 45 years.

It is the nature of  our human biology- and above all our human brain – that development can indeed continue beyond childhood, youth and beyond mid life up to and beyond the 70’s. It can continue to the very end of life, given purposes that challenge and use our human abilities

That is not how we look at age today. As things are now, we have good reason to fear age. We have seen, and are shown, only the losses and declines it can impose.

• In gerontology there is bias to studies of older people in institutions,/ of senility/ dementia / dependency.
• In retirement, although in the USA retirement age was raised to 70 in 1977, age discrimination continues to favour younger workers.
• The obsession with being young is characterised by face lifts, plastic surgery in general and Viagra.
• The retirement village complex, funded by business consortiums feeding on people’s fear of loneliness, illness, not coping – cashing in on the mindless conformity to the victim model of old age.

We have therefore averted our eyes from the face of age.

Finding Newness in Later Life

Srs Catherine Houlihan and Mary Bernard Potter led a quiet day of prayer, reflection and discussion for older people at St Aelred’s in Harrogate at the end of June.Sr Catherine

Sr Catherine, who was born in 1923, reflected on the opportunities as well as the challenges that growing older offers.  Since her own retirement from full time work, Sr Catherine has undertaken a number of different and rewarding roles.  “I have been ‘recycled’ in many surprising ways” she said.  Sr Catherine reminded us that God’s ways are not our ways and the stories of Abraham and Sarah, Simeon and Anna remind us that God expects surprising things from older people.

Sr Mary BernardSr Mary Bernard invited everyone to consider older age as having the potential to be a time of blessing.  “These years can be a blessing  when we come to understand that it is the quality of what we think and say that makes us valuable members of society, not how fast or busy we are.”  Sr Mary acknowledged the fear that the physical effects of ageing can bring, and reflected on the need to recognise our fears to live these years well.  “Old age enlightens – not simply ourselves but those around us” she concluded.

There was time for discussion in small groups throughout the day, and many people enjoyed their lunch in the glorious sunshine sitting in St Aelred’s garden.

“Today has been real therapy”, commented one of the attendees, “Better than medicine”.

St Aelreds delegates

If you are interested in holding a Day of Reflection for older people in your parish then call Rachel on 07702 255142 or email growing.old.gracefully@dioceseofleeds.org.uk .